Tuesday, December 9, 2008
A Baby Changes Everything - Christmas Song By Faith Hill
Monday, November 24, 2008
Fish Stories...
Okay first off this sounds kind of like a fish story. Is that needle really THREE inches long? Secondly, it is great that you have some one that is willing to help. I think I would have a hard time with that shot too. I don't mind needles as long as they are not pointed at me.
...convinced he was wrong and the needle I use for injections is indeed 3 inches long, I broke out a ruler and guess what? The needle itself is only 1.5 inches long but I had to measure it three times to convince myself it was only 1.5 inches long because it looks a whole lot bigger when I look at it every night. I did not intend to tell "fish stories" and stand corrected. Now I know the needle is only 1.5 inches long but guess what? It still hurt tonight just as bad as when I thought it was 3 inches long!
No more fish stories about needles and thanks for the reality check James! Only 4-6 more weeks of injections! Woohoo!!
Friday, November 21, 2008
Beating Heart...
This ultrasound was fun in a different way than my first ultrasound with Jeremy. With Jeremy it was fun and amazing to just see what a miracle it was to have a baby inside me with a beating heart. With this ultrasound it was fun and amazing for the same reason but also because in the room with me were a doctor and a nurse who breathed the same sigh of relief with me when we saw the heartbeat and who beamed and smiled and celebrated and were so excited with me. Both the doctor and nurse were part of the staff who went through the miscarriage this summer with me. It was fun to have people with me who could appreciate the miracle of this moment in my life.
After re-scheduling the ultrasound so Jerry could be there, he still ultimately was not there because of work and the fires this week in California but I brought him a picture. He'll be at the next one where the baby looks more like a baby...
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
Ultrasound update and act of service update...
In the meantime, I thought I would take a minute to tell you about a great act of service...
Starting the day after the embryo transfer I have had to have an injection of progesterone daily. It is an intramuscular shot and is supposed to help ensure the pregnancy has the best possible chance of lasting. On the days Jerry is home, he gives me the shot. I have tried to convince myself I can do these shots myself but every time I think I will try I get a little woozy. I gave myself all of my hormone shots leading up to the egg retrieval - those are subcutaneous and a cinch - but I can't bring myself to jab a 3 inch needle into a muscle in my own body. I watch women on you tube do it and I think they are just swell but I am a sissy and freely admit it.
So on the nights Jerry is at work, Serena (in my ward and an RN) gives me my shot. I had no idea when I started in vitro that I was committing Serena to helping me with injections but she has graciously given me a shot every day that Jerry is gone. She did it for 3 weeks this summer with the first round of in vitro and so far is committed to about 6 weeks to help this pregnancy. I have seen Serena every night for the past week and my gratitude goes beyond words. She is doing for me what I cannot do for myself. Ok - if it was an anti-venom that I had to give myself once and no one else was around I could probably do it to avoid death but a daily shot well, you get the point...
Anyway for those of you who know Serena and are comfortable doing so, tell her how great you think she is for helping me out. It is so hard for me to ask people for help and it is even harder to ask them to help on a daily basis. I am so grateful for her and no matter how often I thank her it never feels like it is enough. So maybe all of you who know her can help me thank her too...
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
July 17, 2009
I want you to know how blessed I feel and how grateful I am for each and everyone of you and your support through this journey of infertility. I am grateful beyond words but my heart is not far from thoughts of those who I share this struggle with who have not and may never look at the lines of a positive pregnancy test with the feelings of wonder and relief that I have felt this week.
I believe in miracles. I believe in fasting. I believe in the wisdom of a loving Heavenly Father and that regardless of the outcome of this pregnancy that He is wise. I believe in the power of friends and family who raise you up through heartache and grief. I am grateful to each of you for your kind words and heartfelt thoughts that you have shared as I have posted about this experience.
Tuesday, November 11, 2008
55 Years of Wisdom - Brought to you Free
Today is my parent’s 55th wedding anniversary. In honor of that, I have included pictures from their wedding but I also wanted my mom to share some of her wisdom with my friends, loved ones and people I do not know who stalk my blog.
I think my parents are so wise and although they would be the first to tell you they are not perfect I know they have learned many things through their 55 years together and most importantly they have stayed faithful to each other and to the gospel throughout that time. In addition to being married for 55 years, my parents raised 8 children. They both – at separate times - returned to school and finished degrees while they had children at home. My mom was a high school dropout and went back to school in her 40’s. She completed a bachelor’s degree and a master’s degree in social work and then worked for almost 15 years in that profession. She retired from Children’s Mental Health Services in Riverside County about 15 years ago. My dad worked every day of his life from the time he was a young boy until he retired about 10 years ago. We refer to him as “the rock” because he is solid, faithful and true.
So below are the 5 things my mom knows for sure about marriage and 5 things she knows for sure about raising kids. 5+5 in honor of their 55th anniversary. I hope there will be something here that is meaningful to each of you, if not now maybe in the future…
5 Things I know For Sure About Marriage:
1 - Marriage is ordained of God and He will hear your prayers concerning your marriage. Pray for your spouse and for your marriage. Look for the good in your spouse. Don’t evaluate your spouse or marriage when you have PMS; you’ll both lose. When you do engage in evaluating your spouse and you have a “What have I done moment???” Honestly, ask yourself, “What is it like to be married to me??”
2 – Marriage can fill your heart, make your spirit soar, and bring pure joy. Conversely, marriage can fill your heart with sorrow, wound your spirit, and bring you to despair. Always remember nothing stays the same. Change will come soon…
3 – For the most part, long-term marriages last because both partners endure the storms rather than jumping ship. All marriages have stormy days and usually stormy seasons. Sometimes one may need to jump ship. A spouse that inflicts physical, emotional or spiritual injury may be cause for leaving. All decisions about the course of a marriage should be made after fasting, prayer and counsel from a priesthood leader
4 – Accept and try to embrace differences. All evidence aside, your family did not necessarily celebrate holidays the “correct” way. In most marriages, one person is the current and one is the anchor. These are opposing forces that can create balance or discord. The current may feel it is dragging the anchor. The anchor may feel it is trying to stop or slow a raging current. If appreciated, each can help bring balance and safety. Appreciate and honor the differences and roles of each other.
5 – Happiness is a personal responsibility! It is not the responsibility of your spouse to “make” you happy. Your spouse may enrich your life and add dimension but no one can “make” you happy but you. Often happiness lies between our ears. Look for the good in life. Joy usually comes in moments not seasons.
5 Things I Know For Sure About Raising Children:
1 – Children are a gift from God. He will help you. He will honor your role as a parent and bless you with wisdom and insight. Seek the guidance of the Lord through constant prayer. He wants you to be successful; your children are His children and He wants each of us to return to Him. Ask for the guidance and promptings of the Holy Ghost and live worthy to receive them. Make quiet listening part of your daily prayers.
2 – Make time to play and have fun with your children. Dirt can wait; childhood will not. Laugh with your children. Teach them to have fun and to work. Lighten up! Make family prayer and family night a priority. Family first!
3 – A strong marriage is one of the most powerful blessings you can give your child. Be a partner to and with your spouse. Help your spouse enhance and magnify his/her role as a parent. The strongest relationship in the family should be between the parents. Anything else shifts into some level of dysfunction and will not benefit your children. Do not keep secrets from your spouse about the children. Secrets between parent and child, which exclude the other parent, build unhealthy alliances and harm the child. Exception: An abusive spouse that is a danger to the child.
4 – Don’t assume because you have done all the right things that you will be spared heartache and sorrow. Don’t beat up on yourself. Pray! Pray! Pray! Never give up. The child who at 6 or 16 is causing you grief and sleepless nights may at 26 or 36 become your hero. Never give up!
5 – If your children are “stars” don’t wear their successes like jewels. Don’t brag, don’t boast and don’t assume you have done a better job than the parents who have defiant children. Parents of difficult children may have been/be the better parents. The Lord may have sent difficult spirits to those parents because He knew those parents would not need the praise of the world, would not give up on their children and would love their children and endure to the end no matter what. Don’t brag – it endears you to no one and often tramples on the heart of a parent who is struggling with a child. Most parents are humbled by one or more children; your turn may come.
Happy Anniversary Dad and Mom!!
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
Counting your chicks before they hatch...
The egg retrieval was two weeks ago Thursday and to say that it is an unpleasant experience would be an understatement. The best part was the anesthesiologist who I have a spiritual connection with. You know those people who you just connect with for some reason that even you don't understand. He has a tender soul and he provides the good stuff to knock me out and temporarily relieve me of the madness that whirls in my mind about my ability to hold another baby in my arms. I started weeping in the procedure room, as they set me up for the egg retrieval. My last memory before going under is of him wiping a tear from my cheek in the most tender gesture of humanity and compassion. I think only those who can be empathetic to infertile women should be allowed to interact with them in their hormone induced state and he does an exceptional job especially in a profession where the practitioners are typecast as cold individuals. My doctor aspirated eggs from both of my ovaries but had to puncture my right ovary four times to access all of the follicles that developed. They retrieved 16 eggs.
The morning after the retrieval the geneticist called to tell me that 14 eggs had fertilized and were forming cells.
On Sunday she called to tell me my petri dish had 4 eggs that were developing nicely and 10 that were coming along .
On Monday I called to check in on my little petri dish and the lab assistant told me I had 10 that were developing nicely and 4 that were not progressing. Feeling unsure that she was unsure about her information I called back and left a message for the geneticist. It can take hours to hear back so I finished work and left for Costco. The geneticist called while I was in the middle of Costco and gave me the full update. She had checked the eggs and none appeared to be doing well. She suggested we still proceed with the embryo transfer and wait and see what happened overnight. I was standing in line at Costco and debated running from the warehouse or continuing to quietly wipe the tears away. I cried myself to sleep that night and woke up crying. The Valium I had to take to proceed the embryo transfer was a blessed thing and that combined with the acupuncture to help relax me during the procedure seemed to do the trick.
The geneticist gives a full report of the embryos she wants to transfer and we are invited to look at them. I declined but Jerry looked and we have pictures of the embryos that were transferred. Embryos are graded based on averages and overnight one embryo had caught up to where they wanted it to be and 4 others were "good enough" to transfer. The geneticist encouraged me to transfer 5 embryos and I wholeheartedly agreed. Remember, I was drugged. Luckily Jerry was not on drugs and the geneticist also remembered to remind us that our decision should be based on whether or not we believe in selective reduction. She encouraged us to transfer 4 and so we did. She reminded us that they transfer less than ideal embryos all the time that end up in pregnancies with completely healthy babies.
The whole process is so overwhelming and little science fiction to me still but I trust in the geneticist's years of experience and the fact that there is not always rhyme or reason to how IVF works when it does. They have a patient who is pregnant now with four babies from the two eggs she had transferred. The patient is giving birth to identical triplet boys and a single girl - two eggs and four babies.
About two days after the transfer Jeremy told me he wanted me to have four babies. We had not talked about the transfer in front of him in terms of numbers so I am really hoping he's not getting heavenly inspiration. My mom said if we have twins she will come help, if it's triplets she will stay home and pray for us and if it is more than that she and my dad will be submitting their paperwork for a mission - foreign preferably. I definitely would not want a litter at one time but I think never holding another of my very own babies would be harder than holding a couple at once.
My overriding feeling is that this has not been a successful round of treatment and I do not expect to be pregnant when they do the test next week. I can't honestly tell you if I feel that way because hoping for a positive pregnancy test feels like I open myself up to too much pain or if I am being prepared for a negative result.
Sunday, November 2, 2008
Thursday, October 30, 2008
Catching up on tags...
Rachael's Halloween Picture Tag: The picture dating the farthest Halloween back that you can find... Mission 1992

6th picture 6th folder - I can't remember if I got tagged or just liked this one. The picture is more recent than I would have thought...
And finally.... Kristi tagged me last week and I typed it all up but never posted so here goes...
What was I doing 10 years ago?
Working for Kaplan and attending Young Single Adults
What are the 5 things on my to do list today?
1- Order halloween costume for Jeremy
2- Pay bills
3- Make tags for FHE idea for Relief Society
4- Buy pirate stuff at dollar store for Jeremy’s Birthday party in January
5- Pull out Halloween decorations
5 Snacks I enjoy:
1- ice cream
2- fresh from the oven cookies
3- milkshakes from Jack in the Box or Carl’s Junior with whipped cream on top
4- Starbucks hot chocolate
5- Starbucks Pumpkin Cream Cheese Muffins
5 Places I have lived:
1- Fontana, California
2- Canyon Lake, California
3- Provo, Utah
4- Montana
5- Wyoming
5 Things I would do if I were a billionaire:
1- Pay off debt
2- Pay off my siblings homes
3- Pad my parents retirement account
4- Church humanitarian stuff including the perpetual education fund, missionary fund, humanitarian fund, etc
5- Travel and homeschool Jeremy live and on location
8 TV Shows I Watch:
1- Private Practice
2- Ghost Whisperer
3- Brothers and Sisters
4- Oprah
5- The View
6- A Baby Story
7- Grey’s Anatomy
8- Misc. nonsense and waste of time shows
8 Favorite Places I Love To Eat:
1- Rubio’s
2- Starbucks
3- Chili’s
4- Outback Steakhouse
5- Red Lobster
6- Chipolte – I wish it were closer
7- Panera – I wish it were closer too
8- Bajio – way too far away but we manage a trip there any time we are in Utah
8 Things That Happened Yesterday:
1- I worked
2- Jerry and I went to the temple
3- I made a to do list of things I wanted to get done
4- I took all of my nails off and annoyed my husband by doing that
5- Jerry injected my “trigger shot” which allows the egg retreival to happen tomorrow morning.
6- Lots of other small stuff that I can’t think of now…
8 Things on my wish list:
1- Healthy baby in July…
2- Safe and happy kids and grandkids as well as extended family
3- A strong testimony of the gospel of Jesus Christ for all of those I love as well as myself
4- Yes on Prop 8 passes
5- The presidential race drama comes to a quick end
6- I will be granted the ability to instantly have a years supply of food
7- The banks will start working on nice 3-5% interest rate loans for those of us who did the safe 30 year fixed rate loans rather than only rewarding those who signed up for sub prime loans.
8- A strong testimony of the gospel of Jesus Christ for all of those I love
8 things I look forward to:
See above
8 people I tag:
See Rachael’s list
My travel through the US...
visited 14 states (28%)
Create your own visited map of The United States or determine the next president
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
Does Heroin cost this much????
I think street drugs are cheaper and given that my ovaries are currently 10 times their normal size, I think street drugs make you feel a little better too. Not tempted to start - just a hormone induced observation of life.
More posts below with cute pictures of this weekend...
FHE @ The Pumpkin Patch
An afternoon at Coulter Ranch
Monday, October 13, 2008
Meeting David (Davey) Jesse Chase
See blessing pictures below....
Wednesday, October 8, 2008
The Madness Begins...
Every neurotic person knows that the way to make a neurotic person more neurotic is to tell them not to be neurotic because it could impact something like - the success of their in vitro. The neurotic person can than become neurotic about how they are not supposed to be neurotic and then obsessively try to not be neurotic. It's a vicious cycle that ended with me backing into a cement pillar in a parking garage today while thinking about how to de-stress. I kid you not...
Luckily I have a very sweet husband who didn't even raise his voice - because he never does raise his voice to me - but only asked if I was ok. I think the fact that he responded to a head-on traffic collision yesterday, where there was a fatality, helped his already ever-so-even temperament while reacting to my incredibly stupid fender bender. His job does really provide perspective on just how insignificant a broken fender is in the scheme of things.
And to help my perspective... I have been reflecting all day on the conversation I had with a women in the waiting room who, with her husband, managed to pull together $16,000 for their first attempt at in vitro. She said if it didn't work that they would have to wait another two years while they tried to pull together the next $16,000 for the next round. For all the pressure I feel, I cannot comprehend the pressure she must feel to be finding and spending so much money with the hope of a baby. And in an ironic twist she told me about Capitol One In Vitro loans which Capitol One is no longer easily providing. So many successful couples forfeit on their loans after getting pregnant that the loans are no longer considered a good risk. That combined with the housing market has made it impossible to get loans to help you have a family. Couples struggling with infertility, in the current economy, have to wait until they can save enough money for each round of in vitro at a cost of $15,000-$25,000 for each month of treatment.
Perspective is a beautiful thing. No matter what my trial is, there is always someone whose trial seems harder to bear.
Monday, October 6, 2008
Breaking Dawn. ~ Literally...
Saturday, October 4, 2008
Vampires and Werewolves...
Not napping during General Conference tomorrow is going to be really hard. Almost as hard as staying awake and listening intently while wondering what waits in Breaking Dawn.
Not classic literature but a great escape and now I won't feel so left out of the conversations about these books! Can't wait to see what the movie producers do with the first film.
Friday, October 3, 2008
In Vitro Round 2
So just for fun, I thought I would give a little rundown of what things cost if you are blessed with the trial of infertility:
One Month of Kaiser Infertility Treatment
• All office procedures at 50% co pay: $826.50
• Prescriptions for one month of treatment: $400-$600
Our total out of pocket after 5 rounds of treatment at Kaiser: approx. $6000-$8000
One round of In Vitro:
• All office procedures for one cycle: $8000
• All medications for one cycle of in vitro: $4000-6000
Total out of pocket yearly maximum deductibles: $4000
Pregnancy tests: • One box per month for 3.5 years - $840 - hope is an expensive thing...
Approximate total out of pocket for us: $10,840
Approximate total out of pocket costs if we had not had insurance: $35,000
And finally… this is what $4000 of medication looks like:
Be grateful for your fertility. I know sometimes there are days it may be hard to be. :)
I am so grateful for my great insurance coverage and the opportunity to look back and know I tried everything medically possible to have another baby to hold. I am really grateful for the chance I have had to have one baby. There are many women who sit in the waiting room with me who would be happy to trade me places and I try to never forget that.
Wednesday, October 1, 2008
Happily Ever After????
Imagine this book being read to your little sons and daughters? Can you? Based on the data entry I am doing for our Prop 8 walks and calls, I am afraid that homeschooling is in my future! It is something I have long considered doing but in the interest of my child's spiritual health and developing identity as a heterosexual man, it may be necessary.
What do you think about the video??
Tuesday, September 30, 2008
Back to School
JP is growing up and it breaks my heart a little but
I love to see him grow and learn too!
Happy Birthday Rachael!
Monday, September 22, 2008
Yeah for Book Club and an excuse to get together!!
For those of you not local to my abode, the book is The Five Love Languages of Children and I recommend it as an easy to read, lots of insight, trying to be a better parent book. This book was interesting to read and reflect back on my own childhood and the ways I felt loved. Even though Jeremy is technically a little young to truly have a set love language, I have a good hunch of what his will be. The best part of this book is that each chapter provides suggestions of activities and actions you can take with your child that will speak to their way of feeling loved.
If you have not read this book yet, I would recommend it as well as the original The Five Love Languages that addressed how to understand how our spouses feel most loved and improve our ability to strengthen marriages by "speaking" our spouses love language.
Sunday, September 21, 2008
More pictures...
I loved Kristi's reference to Seriously so blessed! Really there are moments in life when we are so blessed. Although this blog is a fun spoof on the Mormon bloggers who talk about being so blessed there are truly moments in life when we are so blessed. Not in the "isn't my life perfect" way but in the tender mercies of everyday life way. We feel so blessed to be a part of this new eternal family that is being created through the blessings of a temple marriage and to watch a spirit fresh from heaven join Kristi and Joe.
More updates on life below...
A letter from my sister about Hurricane Ike...
Dear Family,
We have survived hurricane Ike!!!!! Our house had no damage. Our little cover for the fireplace was the only thing that blew off and we found it when every one had a bath in our ditch in the front yard ! We had great fun and got great pictures !
We run generators to keep food and have lights at night, although this is a very costly way to survive. We estimate about 200-250 dollars per week. We received the new today that they expect us to have power my the 26th, only 2 weeks after the storm hit. Great news because the early reports were that we would be without power for a month!
Paul Sr. bought me a washboard ( no anger please, it was actually my request) I wash Paul Sr., mine and the babies clothing and have taught the kids to wash their own. Another great learning experience for the kids. Our girls aren't getting survival skills at girls camp anymore, so I am thankful for the opportunity to teach them what I learned.
5 days following the storm Wal-mart is open running on generators also. No dairy, meat, frozen foods. We will try later to upload photos that Tiffiny and I took of the bare shelves of bread, canned meat, veggies, and fruit. Pictures of mile long car lines waiting for gas, only gas stations with generators had gas. People 50 -100 in line with gas cans trying to get gas. Paul Sr. and I drove a 160 mile round trip for milk, eggs, ect. that we know will be at least another week coming here. But so grateful to have such rare commodities.
FEMA stations offering food, water, ice in the first few days were 2-3 hours in line and 2-3 miles long. Dustin, Paul Jr., Tiffiny and Amber, and Michael are currently volunteering 4-6 hours shifts at our local FEMA station.
Our ward is going out tomorrow with a cleanup crew to offer cleanup assistance to as many people they can find who need it. All the younger kids are going with Paul Sr. to do that, while the older kids work at the FEMA station.
We are most grateful for our leaders who have counseled us to have 72 hour kits, used ours. People trying to prepare before a storm hits are hours in line with empty shelves and unable to get basic supplies to survive 72 hours. 3 days prior to the storm we steered clear of Wal-mart. We instead filled our tanks of gas and filled one 55 gallon drum of gas for the first few days of generator use. When that ran out we had to travel 100 miles to the nearest gas station. Filled two 55 gallon drums and are currently still using that. (By the way, that was a scary ride home, because you know if any accident happens, BOOM say goodbye, which by the way I did not think about until after we had the gas.)
We have been blessed with beautiful weather and cool nights, a very unusual occurrence following a hurricane. We are blessed with children who have enjoyed there time off school and see everything new we are doing as a grand new adventure. We are so grateful to Heavenly Father who spared our home and roof and spared our children living in a shelter. We have scripture study outside under the tree and it is such a peaceful time that following the return of power, we hope to continue doing that on beautiful days.
Thank you for your prayers, concern and love. We are REALLY enjoying this time as a family !!!!
Allison
My treadmill breeds the plague...
Any ideas anyone? Any anti-viral cleaning products that you swear by to keep yourself and your family healthy during cold and flu season??
Tuesday, September 16, 2008
Meet David Jesse Chase
Sunday, September 14, 2008
Am I an Emma?
As I watched this last night I was reminded and humbled at the great sacrifices Emma made including the companionship of her husband. I read another quote about one of the early leaders of the church who left his wife and children to serve a mission in a foreign land. I marvel at the sacrifices these women made. Who knows? Maybe they complained and maybe there were women who held their men back from being who the Lord wanted them to be or doing what the Lord wanted them to do-I do believe we have that kind of influence in our homes. We know from the stories we have heard that many women didn't. Many women raised their children alone for months and months while their husbands served and built Zion. Some women crossed the plains with their children while their husbands were serving elsewhere. I know Emma is a somewhat controversial figure but as I listened to the song and watched the video I asked where I would be if I endured her life? I have been very reflective the past several months of who I am and I wonder, "Am I an Emma?" "Am I a mother who raises my child to be one of Helaman's warriors?"
I have wondered how these hero mothers and women acted on a daily basis to become the women we reverence? I know our trials are not their trials and have heard they would not trade places with the us and the trials of our time. I think that means I need to be better and stronger and more courageous and less complaining and mostly I need to not be overwhelmed but be sure to trust in the Lord and turn to Him as they did. It is kind of overwhelming but I bet on a day to day basis Emma could have never imagined our day and that anyone would sit at their computer and wonder, "Am I an Emma?"
Thursday, September 11, 2008
How to improve your tract home mirrors...
Just another thing to add to the to do /to buy list!
Monday, September 8, 2008
Over the Top and On the Spot!!
Another fun blog that takes a look at us Mormon's and our quirks is What Mormons Like. Rachael has had a link to this for awhile and it's fun to take a look at when they update their posts.
It's good to know we don't take ourselves too seriously!

















